Self-love is a profound journey of acceptance and compassion towards oneself. It is a something we often overlook but fuels our everyday life. And for the longest time, I knew all too well what it was like to neglect that crucial part of my life-loving myself.

It was hard to look in the mirror because there was nothing about me that I loved. Fueled by the absence of a parent, it felt like love was hard-earned from others and from myself. That only spiraled into more self-hatred whether it was hating how I looked, things about my personality, goals I haven’t accomplished, or relationships I have failed.

Since then, I have learned a few things that have helped me to love myself more and I hope that these things help you learn to love yourself as well.

You Are Beautifully Created By God

It is important to remember that no matter what, God loves you.

Because God is your creator.

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139:13-14

He is the one who molded you and made you to be exactly who you are today. A beautiful, intelligent, capable, human being who is enough.

There is no one else in the world like you so that makes you one of a kind. Whether you believe right now or not, you have something special to offer to the world.

Sometimes it is easy to forget when we don’t love ourselves, but remember, God never stops loving us. If you are in the middle of a season struggling to love yourself, repeat some verses about God’s love and recognize that He hears you, so ask Him to help you!

Finding peace in God and focusing on Him and not on yourself can make a huge difference in your outlook.

Write Down 10 Things You Love About Yourself..Every Day

This might be difficult to do when you don’t love yourself, but take a moment to sit down and write. Start with one thing. You can at least come up with one thing.

And if you can come up with one thing, you can come up with two things.

Slowly, fill up your page with things that you love about yourself. It can be a kind heart or a pretty smile. There are so many beautiful things about you, you just need to recognize them about yourself.

Set And Meet One Goal..Then Two

There is nothing more encouraging to me than achieving goals that I set. Achieved goals help a person have a sense of accomplishment.

In other words, when you work really hard towards something and you finally achieve it, it makes you feel really good about yourself. It shows that you can change the little things about your life and move on to tackling the bigger things.

By choosing something you don’t like about your life and changing it can help you to start loving your life and yourself more. One little goal at a time.

Find One Person You Can Trust

One person can make a huge difference in your life. Oftentimes, if people don’t love us we end up thinking that we are unlovable. However, that is completely untrue.

It always helps to have someone who loves you and who you trust, by your side, picking you up when you are feeling down. If you don’t already have a friend or family member you can talk to, find a counselor or someone who can help you see the good things about you.

Sometimes an outside perspective is good to help you see things you can’t see about yourself in the moment. We all need reminders sometimes that we are worthy of love and kindness in our lives.

When you have a person you trust, you can tell them things about yourself without fear of judgment.

As women, we sometimes need someone to just listen as we pour our hearts out.

If you don’t have someone in your life like that at the moment, remember, you can always pour your heart out to God.

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For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mothers womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

Help Someone Else

Even when I don’t feel great about myself or my life at the moment, it helps me to know I have the power to change someone else’s life for the better. This is one of the ultimate things that can give joy in our lives.

When you help someone else, it helps two lives at the same time. Theirs and yours. In the process, you might even gain a new perspective and realize that not everything in your life is horrible. You have the power to change a life and that is something incredible about you.

Whether it is someone you already know, or someone new in your community, showing love to someone else can help you feel the love you so deeply desire.

And, you never know the connection you might make can maybe blossom into a new friendship that will fill your life with more joy.

Final Thoughts

Don’t get discouraged if you don’t make progress right away.

Loving yourself is a lifelong journey that we need to learn how to do. It might take some time but you will get there. Be patient and kind with yourself.

Are you on a journey to love yourself? What are you doing to help love yourself more?